You Can’t Please Them
1 Then came to Jesus scribes and Pharisees, which were of Jerusalem, saying,
2 Why do thy disciples transgress the tradition of the elders? for they wash not their hands when they eat bread.
3 But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition?
4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.
5 But ye say, Whosoever shall say to his father or his mother, It is a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me;
6 And honour not his father or his mother, he shall be free. Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition.
7 Ye hypocrites, well did Esaias prophesy of you, saying,
8 This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me.
9 But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
You can’t live your life for someone else. For this purpose, you have your life to live and they have theirs. You have to live your life the best way you know how and hopefully that is for the upkeep of the kingdom of God. But there will be some people that come in your life that mean you no good. There will be some that have their hooks in you and some are like a thorn in your side. As long as you are not moving, you won’t feel a thing; but just as soon as you make the slightest move, they have some much to say. But let me tell you that you have an option with these people and it will not sit well with them. You have to stand your ground, don’t let them persuade you to do anything wrong, and give them over to God.
Jesus, when dealing with the Pharisees and Sadducees, He called them for what they were. When dealing with people that aren’t pleased, you have to call a spade a spade. Get to the root of the issue and let the cards fall where they may. You have to understand that if you give an inch, you will fall into their hands. If you know your friend is a liar, why entertain the things he (or she) will say? Go ahead and nip it in the bud and keep moving. You will continue to talk with this person and pretty soon the lies and the truth will comingle and you won’t know which is which.
Next, you have to know that they will come at you from every angle. They know you a little better than you think. They have watched your moves and seen the way you talk to people…but they just don’t like it. They can’t seem to understand how you can like Johnny when he hurt them. How can you talk with Mary when she can’t afford the latest clothes? How can you say that you want to hang with Tim and he lives in a section of town that is not affluent? When Jesus was talking with them, they tried to use His words against Him. They tried to trip Him up on every hand, but it didn’t work. He was knowledge, backed His words with facts, and was not influenced with what they had to say. Don’t let these people steer you from the straightway.
Last, when all else fails, you have to let them go and let God handle it. I had a friend that would end every disagreement with “I’m just gonna pray for yall”. They understood that some things we can solve in the natural, but some we have to go to the Father. Every time Jesus spoke with them, He told them to repent. Now, if you know you are doing wrong…some things should be a given. But these people’s reality had been flawed by circumstances. They felt that what they were saying was the truth. They felt that everyone was wrong and they have the only right answer to everything. That is when you need to have a heart to heart with the Father and ask Him to open their eyes. Pray for them that misuse you…that’s scripture. Don’t let them light a fuse in you and you find yourself in a nice, new 6×9 box with a cellmate. Hand them over to God.
You can’t please everybody…stop trying. They don’t like you like that; they can’t get down with some people you like, but you just give them to Jesus and let Him sort it out. Don’t kill yourself over someone’s unhappiness over YOUR life. If they can’t ride your bus, drop them off at the next stop and keep going. Stress is only stress when you allow it to affect your life. Jesus is a stress reliever, use Him daily.